Male Body Confidence/Image & Awareness

Inspired by a recent post I read by fellow ‘male blogger’ Arran from Halo Of Thoughts called Male Body Confidence & Image I wanted to create my own post about my own history and insecurities with my body. Also to further raise awareness that men do struggle with body issues and that guys you are NOT ALONE.

I have what is called an ‘Endomorph’ body type which basically means I have a pear shaped body, rounded head, wide hips and shoulders, with lots of fat on the body, upper arms and thighs so not something I’m particular proud of.

I’ve never had what you call the ‘Perfect Body’ I mean what does that even mean? As a youngster I was very active, a lot of outdoor sports, but when I started High School it wasn’t deemed ‘cool’ so I regretfully stopped it all. Also like thousands of other children I encountered bullying, so I think this also played a big role in my eating habits and how I gained so much weight. I’m not saying that’s the main reason, as after all it was me who entered the food into my mouth, but it definitely played a factor.

When I look back it does make me sad, as I missed out on so much and was always so conscious of the way I looked. I remember being as young at 10 on a beach in Greece with my family and asking my mum if I could wear my t-shirt on the beach as I didn’t want people seeing my body, which is super sad but that mentality has stuck with me my whole life.

Now as a 25-year-old man, I feel I’m confident in many ways but still the way I look is something I really struggle with. For example I feel really self-conscious if getting changed in front of people, and constantly scrutinise the way I look in clothes. My weight fluctuates so much, and is always on my mind when out shopping looking for new clothes. I currently weigh over 15st and just about fit into my favourite brands XL clothing so I really need to clean up my act and do something about it!

I’m sick of having to strategically plan where I sit in a restaurant so I’m not exposed to people seeing my overhang, or having to wear a coat on a nice day purely due to the fact I don’t want the wind to press my clothing up against my car crash of a body. There are so many things I would love to be able to do in my life which I can’t/wont due to the way I feel about myself.

I found a few great articles on the subject of Body Image –

Enhancing Male Body Image

BBC – Perfect Body

I’m hopeful that in the future, I will look the way I want to look. I will be that guy on the beach with no shirt on playing beach volleyball with not a care in the world about who maybe looking at me. I know it’s a long way off but it will happen, and in the mean time I/we just need to remember the below –

You Are Not Alone

Do Not Compare Yourself To Others

Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself

Talk To Someone

There Is No Such Thing As Perfect

We All Have Demons

A big THANK YOU to Arran for his post so make sure you check that out! As without that I don’t think I would have written this today! Its triggered certain memories of my past which aren’t all good, and has spurred me on to actually do something about it!



  1. October 27, 2016 / 10:58 am

    An *excellent* post Charley, something I have recently only started to acknowledge myself. I spent the first 25/26 years of my life hating the way I look, everything from my hair to the way I look, my stocky frame so I can 100% relate to this post. It’s really only been the last year and as I am starting to get nearer to my 30s that I am growing in confidence and feeling better about myself in a way that I never have before; I’m spending longer on grooming, dressing better, making myself feel better with things like quality fragrance and pushing myself out of my comfort zones. Still not quite there yet, but it’s a start hey? Great post my man.

    • October 27, 2016 / 11:14 am

      Ah a fellow stocky man! I embrace parts of my build (the shoulders mainly) as I think its nice to be built that way, but its all the stuff in between! Glad you are building in confidence, dressing a certain way and great grooming your right really does help your confidence. I don’t think anyone is truly at one with the way they look but its a work in progress right? Thanks for commenting! Love that awareness is getting around for us men!

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